A member of my online network is component of a new phenomenon – pole dancing parties for females. “It really is empowering,” she insists. Botox for the “Pussycat Dolls” burlesque show at Caesar’s Palace in Las Vegas claims the show is “empowering for all ladies” who want to be a pussycat inside.
Here’s my concern: Why is it the only socially sanctioned way for a woman to be much more “empowered” is to “get her sexy on?” Is the only acceptable form of empowerment to “release your inner slut?” Is that what we’ve gained through all the years of feminism?
I’m not a prude. Healthful, exciting sex in a committed, monogamous relationship is a great thing. Amazing! But I’d like to live in a globe where there are other acceptable techniques for girls to be empowered, also. Truth is speaking up and saying our thoughts honestly and directly is a lot extra “out of the box” than prancing and shimmying around a pole for millions of women.
Final week there was great hue and cry on “The View” as Rosie O’Donnell and Elizabeth Hasselbeck squared off. Elizabeth didn’t back down this time. The clip of that interview was replayed on FOX, CNN and other networks for days with commentators startled that a fairly, small blonde could argue so forcefully and successfully against large, bad Rosie.
The next day at NBC Studios – a person took a magic marker and drew a moustache on photographs of Elizabeth. Why is it okay for ladies to “empower themselves” by participating in sexual “male authorized” activities like pole dancing?
Or, empower oneself! Buy all new skin care! What the heck, definitely empower your self and get Botox(TM) injections!!!
Girls are judged – by both guys and ladies. Typically it really is not okay when we pick out to speak up and say our piece – regardless of whether it has to do with our opinions on politics or selling in a optimistic, win-win way the benefits of your solution or service and how you can assistance your shoppers.
As the author of a well-liked book written for ladies dwelling-based company owners to assist them have more fun, really feel additional confident and make a lot additional dollars I’ve talked with thousands of women who really like their organization – but hate having the word out. It is not just the “how-tos” of marketing and selling – it really is also about feeling empowered and entitled to say their piece and ask for what they want. Hinting and innuendo is fine in your personal life – but it will in no way reduce it in organization. You have to ask.
I have advertising mentoring clients who’ve struggled with their individual finances and their firms due to the fact they felt totally unsupported, uncomfortable and un-empowered speaking up for themselves and asking for what they want. They do not really feel empowered enough to guide and direct a conversation – which is essential in small business to sell anything.
They want to create a superior life for themselves and usually for their families – the American dream. However, they have been told to ask for anything is not fantastic, to count on something is not very good to speak up and speak your worth is not great. Who’s empowering these girls so they can attain their ambitions and aspirations? (That’s a considerable aspect of my marketing and advertising mentoring for some of my consumers, btw.) Dancing about a pole is not going to get them there.
Pole dancing and burlesque is fine. It can produce some actual spice in the bedroom with your man – a good point. And I comprehend its fantastic physical exercise. But all the sexy moves, feather boas and seven inch stilettos in the planet will not aid her spend the bills, save for her youngsters college or her retirement – unless she desires to turn out to be a professional stripper.